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My actual goal of writing this book is that each and everyone in entire world should be aware of a girl child and they spread these things in every part of world so that a girl can live a comfortable and a stressful life . In early age , not only girls should be aware of what is going to happen to them in adolescence but also its important that boy should also be aware of these things , so that they will respect a care girls. This Book is self explanatory I want that each and everyone should read and spread this all over the world
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Girl and Girly Things

i am shocked by the fact that the mentality of people in india is still not changed towards girl child. i am myself experiencing these things that the people still dont want to have a girl in their houses. Apart from that , sexual assault and rape have always been a part of our society since the beginning of human kind. And this crime can be of any kind usually they include murders, abuse, molestation,rape and infanticide. These case against women in india keeps rising each and every year. And usually these cases result in lifelong Trauma or death. Some cases like rape of girl in pulwama kashmir, raped by her thirteen year old cousin. Some other cases in which parents refuses to believe, which is so unfair especially in kashmir which leads to depression and attempt to suicide. Like , A 17 year old girl attempt to suicide after being raped by 43 year old man whome she addressed as uncle. Not only this, Minor girl attempt suicide after being raped by her father in Chennai.

Instead of watching these things as a movie, people should take action against it otherwise it will lead to the dangerous impact to upcoming generation. Firstly the stigma associated with sex education leads to parents not educating their children about sexual advances and threats, which can protect them from abuse. Parents should talk about these things to their children, especially with a girl, as whenever she will meet this problem , she can figure it out easily by herself. However, such kind of initiatives need the support of civil society and strong voices across justice, education, child welfare and institutions.

•MENSTRUATION (periods) AND MYTHS

Another problem menstruation has always been surrounded by taboos and myths that exclude women from many aspects of socio_cultural_life. Girls are usually afraid of sharing these things with a boy or her father. WHY ARE WE ALL AFRAID TO TALK OPENLY ABOUT MENSTRUATION? We should talk about this! So what? people will talk about you? This is their work and their dirty mind. Dont you study about menstruation with boys at school? Even boys must be aware of this thing so that they will also come to know that from which phase a girl go through. And they also should respect this. In some of the rural parts of india , there is a myth that WOMEN CANNOT SLEEP WITH FAMILY MEMBERS AS SHE IS SHIFTED OUTSIDE THE HOUSE , one more myth that SHE SHOULD NOT COOK DURING HER PERIODS AS UNCLEANLINESS WILL SPOIL THE FOOD. In some places women use cloth sanitary pads which causes infections deadly to reproductive health. All these things can be fixed if social myths and taboos over periods are eliminated.


•WHY SOME PARENTS DONT WANT A GIRL CHILD?

This question is coming again and again in my mind , those girls who are supportive, who takes care of their parents everywhere , indian parents dont want them? isn't this look strange? I am so happy to be a girl and my parents lift me happily as a girl, even they are happy what i am doing in my life or who i am! But some Indian parents feel guilty about this.

But why? Are you forgetting? that girls are god gifted, they are like angels, they will help you everytime everywhere! Stop being so harsh to them , they also want to live their life happily. A question to those mother's who don't want a girl child "WITH WHOME WILL YOU SHARE YOUR SECRET THINGS?" There is the only girl who has that feeling of understanding her mother and her family problems. Boys even dont care what's happening around them in the house. But there are only girls who only have this thing in mind that how will she figure out this situation. Aborting or killing a girl child has been a common practice in many parts of our country. This has led to an unequal proportion of men and women. This is not a sustainable approach for the human race. Women should be given an equal amount of priority like men. They deserve to live, laugh, and get the opportunities to flourish in life. They are the source to create life and hence their existence should be safeguarded by all the members of the society. Speaking of society there are considerable societies still prevailing in India that do not appreciate additional women members in the family.

NOW, its time to take action !

Dont kill a girl child by your shitty* talks

love them and respect them!

if there were no girls in society, i dont think there would have similing faces like a mother, a daughter and a wife!


•EARLY GIRL CHILD MARRIAGE

12 million girls are married before the age of 18 each year. That is 23 girls every min.

Child early and forced marriage is a global issue that effects the girls badly.

Like maternal threath issues, infant mortality, domestic violence, etc...Early marriage seriously harms the development and wellbeing of girls, through limited education and employment opportunities, social isolation, domestic violence and rape. Girls are vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV and AIDS, and early pregnancy.






Child marriage refers to any formal marriage or informal union between a child under the age of 18 and an adult or another child.


While the prevalence of child marriage has decreased worldwide – from one in four girls married a decade ago to approximately one in five today – the practice remains widespread. Before the COVID-19 pandemic, more than 100 million girls were expected to marry before their eighteenth birthday in the next decade. Now, up to 10 million more girls will be at risk of becoming child brides as a result of the pandemic.


The United Nations Sustainable Development Goals call for global action to end this human rights violation by 2030.




Child marriage is often the result of entrenched gender inequality, making girls disproportionately affected by the practice. Globally, the prevalence of child marriage among boys is just one sixth that among girls.


Child marriage robs girls of their childhood and threatens their lives and health. Girls who marry before 18 are more likely to experience domestic violence and less likely to remain in school. They have worse economic and health outcomes than their unmarried peers, which are eventually passed down to their own children, further straining a country’s capacity to provide quality health and education services.


Child brides often become pregnant during adolescence, when the risk of complications during pregnancy and childbirth increases – for themselves and their infants. The practice can also isolate girls from family and friends and exclude them from participating in their communities, taking a heavy toll on their physical and psychological well-being.


Because child marriage impacts a girl’s health, future and family, it imposes substantial economic costs at the national level, too, with major implications for development and prosperity.




Girls are not born only for house hold jobs or giving birth to a baby , today women has taken the places of men. They had shown that they can also be pilots, teachers , Engineers etc.

We should salute the government who initiated the BETI BACHAO , BETI PADAO scheme in October 2014 , which is reducing sex ratios, bringing girl child rights into focus and achieving girl child access to education.


•BODY SHAMING

Body Shaming is one of the serious issue in india. Shaming a girl on the basis of her body shape and size is not acceptable. A person should atleast think 10 times before taking on a girl's appearance. I believe that body shamers should give harsh and harsh punishment . Every person's body and appearance is god gifted. What does this mean ? So basically body shamers are Shaming god for giving this kind of body to any other person . If a person is fat , thin , abnormal or handsome that doesn't matter , especially for me , what only matters is RESPECT and a GOOD HUMAN BEING.

WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE ? Not their enemies but their own family members , their school mates and even their relatives.


•ME AND BODY SHAMING ( MY EXPERIENCE) Any time there is public discussion about women and weight, I see patients picking up on it, talking about it, fretting about it and I see their symptoms spike.

Sadly, body shaming occurs among both men and women of all different shapes and body sizes. Body shaming has included both criticisms of being “too fat”, or “too skinny”, often picking on flaws that completely irrelevant. Many magazines, social media platforms, and advertisements contribute to body shaming in ways that have started to normalize these damaging behaviors. Many TV shows and movies have fallen into this pattern as well, where the “fat” character is often the subject of criticism and comic relief. With the trending behaviors of celebrity fat shaming on social media, it is important to understand the potential consequences that may arise.






Since i am a fat girl , people does judge me on my weight. By those taunts i decided to lose my weight which I don't want from other girls to be like this .. I want each and every girl to be strong so that they can motivate upcoming generation for being strong and punishing ever body shamer . And yes, losing weight is not enough for me or for those people who had been shamed for body . My ideology is to change the mentality of people by which they judge me and even those girls who are fat or going through the other kinds of serious problems . And only because of these Problems a girl is not comfortable , stable or we can say safe in society . Girls like me, our mothers or relatives , they force us to wear hijaabs or to wrap ourselves with shawls and scarfs , why? Because they know what actually the society is . I personally am not comfortable , with this kind of society in which people see a girl in bad vision and unfortunately going out without hijaabs or head cover is crime in society . In this book i decided to share all my feelings , the struggles or the circumstances which i had faced and i hope reading this book people change their mentality and will respect girls , even if they are of any body shape , size or structure.


•SCHOOLS AND GIRLY PROBLEMS

I am shocked by the fact that too many schools dont have separate toilets or washrooms for girls which feels so uncomfortable for those girls who dont want to reveal that they are menstrating.




A quality high-school education can transform a girl's future, yet around the world, many adolescent girls miss school or even drop out altogether for one simple reason: menstruation.


Schools often lack the supplies and sanitation facilities girls need for managing their periods. Girls without adequate health care may feel discomfort or pain. Shame, stigma and misinformation may discourage girls from attending school while menstruating and prevent schools from teaching healthy attitudes about menstruation. Many girls stay home to avoid being teased. For girls growing up in refugee camps and conflict areas, the challenges are even greater.



Thats why In some parts girls dont go to school while there menstruation days because of lack of privacy , unavailability of sanitary disposal facilities and even water shortage.

Girls should be kept in a comfortable place where there is availability of sanitary pads and full hygiene. So this is very important that each and every schools should have these all things for girls.



• RESPECT WOMEN


One of my favourite quotes states that ‘stronger people don’t put others down; they lift them up.’ According to biology, men have stronger builds than women. Even though we live in the 21st century, the first two sentences of this paragraph seem to contradict each other. The strength of men has been stamped with a significant question mark.


The journey of a woman at any stage of her life can be either extremely beautiful or extremely disastrous, and a great deal of this depends on what kind of men are around her. By this I don’t mean that women are not strong. In fact, women are more courageous and strength-providing creatures than men could ever be. Our Earth has been a male dominated society for centuries. This means men have most of the power. But as they say ‘with great power comes great responsibility’, so the question that has been stamped on the strength and power of men is: are we taking the responsibility and doing enough to make women feel respected, ensuring that they have a fulfilling life?


From hormonal changes to giving birth to a child, the life of a woman has a lot of struggles. Perhaps God gave the responsibility to give birth to a child to women because they are more brave and responsible than men would ever be. Yet, they don’t get the respect they so much deserve.


I believe that a society where its women do not feel secure and respected is not worth calling a society. Crimes like rape, domestic violence and trafficking have increased over time and the word respect is ebbing. Trafficking of women has raised a big concern and has destroyed many lives. I live in a country where, according to statistical data, a rape happens every 20 minutes. Men have misused their dominance and power and responsibility has not been taken.


But what makes these men act like this? What makes them think that they have the right to do the evil things to women? Well, I think it is their perception that makes them commit these heinous crimes. They tend to look at things in every negative manner possible and because of their way of thinking and perception, they haunt the women around them and pierce their lives with fear. I believe that it all depends on perception. First we build our perception and then our perception builds us. The kind of perception we create in our minds, the same kind of person we end up being.

The problem is, often people making these statements, do not even realize they are sexist. In fact, people making such statements, often think they are helping the cause of gender equality.


One might argue that if the idea works, then why not use it? What is the harm, if some men respect women for the wrong reasons? Isn’t it better than not respecting them at all? I don’t think so.



Here lies the problem. Many issues women face, is a result of the age old idea, that a woman is just some man’s property. This idea has caused the subjugation of women for centuries. It is at the root of all the injustice and inequality women face. It has enabled fathers, husbands and brothers, to impose their will on women and deprive them of education and a voice. So it is important to eliminate this idea. Using it to garner respect for a few women, can only backfire. We want to move forward in getting freedom, equality and meaningful respect for women.



• WOMEN EMPOWERMENT

It refers to making women powerful , to make them capable of deciding for themselves . Women have suffered a lot through the years at the hands of men . In earlier times, they were treated as almost non_existance. As the time evolved women realised their powers . They all began to revolution for women empowerment.

Empowering women is the fundamental right of women . They can have equal rights to participate in education, society, economics and politics . They are allowed to have higher education and treatment in the way like men.

Unemployment of women and unequal opportunities in the place of work can be eradicated with the help of women empowerment .Globally renowned for its culture and heritage, India is a country filled with diverse cultures. But the Indian society has always been a patriarchal one which is why women have been continuously denied basic human rights such as education and equality. They have always been suppressed and limited to domesticity and restrained from getting basic education. The notion of gender equality demands parity between males and females but women have been kept oblivious of their rights. For a country like India, women empowerment will be a greater role in its growth and development.


In both biological and moral context, women possess greater abilities to shape the future and development of a family as well as society as a whole. Thus, equal opportunities should be given every women to help them fully grow as an individual and make their own choices.


Whenever women are facing unemployment , their true potential is left without any use , to make use of the strength and potential of the women , they must be provide with equal opportunities.

When given the right support , women have shown brilliantly in every field . Even in india, we have seen women handling diverse roles, be it a prime minister, Astronaut, Entrepreneur, Banker and much more. Further , women are also considered as the backbone of the family.The society is still committed to patriarchy. Irrespective of the laws, girls are not proffered the right to property and are considered as a burden. Even in well-to-do families, male children are often prioritized and have better access to fulfill their ambitions. Girls are often not educated and enlightened on the progress that humanity is making. They neither have health awareness nor financial awareness.


Another major factor that stalls development is the lapse in the implementation of laws and policies. Though we have laws to address discrimination of women and violence against women, our women, irrespective of the background, live in constant fear. Safety remains a major concern here. The policy-practice gap and rampant corruption impact the status of women in our society.




From domestic chores to nurturing children, they handle multiple responsibilities.

Additionally, domestic violence has become a crucial problem in India . Thee husbands abuse their wives mentally and sometimes physically considering them as their own property . It is quite common because women are scared to speak up . In a similar way, the women who work genuinely get paid fewer than their male equals . We require to empower these women to talk for themselves and never be a sufferer of injustice.The first step towards women empowerment is educating a girl child. It is said that when you educate a woman, you educate the whole society. With good education, girls can get high paying jobs and consequently wage gaps could be lowered. Increased health awareness prevents early pregnancy and malnutrition. When women have more freedom, they can involve in unexplored areas like politics.


Women at the helm of affairs, can articulate their problems better and it becomes easy to implement policy changes. Key development indicators like food security, sanitation, and health can be significantly improved by increasing awareness among women. It could solve problems like sexual harassments as they would inculcate better values in their sons.



Hence all our mothers , sisters and daughters we must aim at creating an environment of integrity . We must boost their confidence to make them capable enough to take their decisions in every phase of life and thus is how we can strive towards bringing women empowerment.

Women play a great role in the growth and development of the society and making it an advanced and modern society. There is a famous saying by the Brigham Young that, “You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation.” Educating and giving power to the women is of great importance which needs to be followed in the society to bring women empowerment and development of society. Because it is true that, if a man is getting educated and empowered, only he can be benefitted however if a woman is getting educated and empowered, whole family and society can be benefitted.


Women are not things which can be neglected because of their less power and authority instead they should be empowered and promoted to get higher education. Women are the half population of the world mean half power of the world. If women of any country are not empowered mean that country is lack of half power. By nature, women play their all the roles with great responsibilities and have capability to make a healthy family, solid society and powerful country. Lots of efforts have been done however still women are backward and limited to home activities. We need to understand that if an uneducated woman may handle home properly then why not a well educated woman can lead the whole country like men.


Without woman nothing is possible for men, they are basic unit of the society, they make a family, family make a home, home make a society and ultimately societies make a country. So the contribution of a woman is everywhere from taking birth and giving birth to a child to the care for whole life and other areas. All the roles and responsibilities of the women can never be neglected by the societies. Without education and women empowerment no development is possible in the family, society and country. Women know well how to talk, how to behave, how to deal with people of different classes, etc. She knows to handle all the situations because she knows well the basic fundamentals of a good society and play her roles politely as a main contributor in building a strong society.


Earlier, when the lives of women were worse than slaves, women were considered as animals and used as sex toys. It was a sin for women to give birth to a girl baby, either they were killed, buried alive or thrown away by the male head of the family. However, the condition has become advance now in many means but not completely.


Respect is a broad term. Experts interpret it in different ways. Generally speaking, it is a positive feeling or action expressed towards something. Furthermore, it could also refer to something held in high esteem or regard. Showing Respect is a sign of ethical behavior. Unfortunately, in the contemporary era, there has been undermining of the value of Respect. Most noteworthy, there are two essential aspects of Respect. These aspects are self-respect and respect for others.Self-Respect refers to loving oneself and behaving with honour and dignity. It reflects Respect for oneself. An individual who has Self-Respect would treat himself with honour. Furthermore, lacking Self-Respect is a matter of disgrace. An individual who does not respect himself, should certainly not expect Respect from others. This is because nobody likes to treat such an individual with Respect.


Self-Respect is the foundation of a healthy relationship. In relationships, it is important to respect your partner. Similarly, it is equally important to Respect yourself. A Self-Respecting person accepts himself with his flaws. This changes the way how others perceive the individual. An individual, who honours himself, would prevent others from disrespecting him. This certainly increases the value of the individual in the eyes of their partner. And thats what a women want from his partner.


Lacking Self-Respect brings negative consequences. An individual who lacks Self-Respect is treated like a doormat by others. Furthermore, such an individual may engage in bad habits. Also, there is a serious lack of self-confidence in such a person. Such a person is likely to suffer verbal or mental abuse. The lifestyle of such an individual also becomes sloppy and untidy.


Self-Respect is a reflection of toughness and confidence. Self-Respect makes a person accept more responsibility. Furthermore, the character of such a person would be strong. Also, such a person always stands for his rights, values, and opinions.


Self-Respect improves the morality of the individual. Such an individual has a good ethical nature. Hence, Self-Respect makes you a better person.


Self-Respect eliminates the need to make comparisons. This means that individuals don’t need to make comparisons with others. Some people certainly compare themselves with others on various attributes. Most noteworthy, they do this to seek validation of others. Gaining Self-Respect ends all that.


•SAVE GIRL CHILD


Women empowered means India empowered and to legitimize women in future we need to empower our girl child of today. Traditions and rituals rundown the existence of the Indian girl child. Amidst clamor of gender parity and prosecution of laws protecting their wellbeing, female debris are still found dumped in trash, by the dozens.


Her second rate autonomy is echoed in the repudiation of fundamental needs and rights and in such catastrophic attitudes and practices as a preference for sons, female genital mutilation, incest, sexual exploitation, domestic wrongdoing, bigority, early marriage, less food and less access to education


With more and more female fetuses are still being selectively terminated after illegal pre-natal sex determination, the number of female infants per 1000 male infant is rapidly declining. Skewed sex ratio has led to an alarming emergency.


The ethos that a girl is an obligation needs to be washed off and this requires happening at the grass root level. While radial awareness is demanding, there is a need of stringent laws in place which would dissuade people from resorting to female foeticide. Education plays a vital role here and goes a long way in empowering women. And the process of education has to begin early in life. More and more girl children need to be sent to school providing element and comprehensive education At the same time, a society with has educated girls would witness less child marriages, abated levels of poverty and profound participation of women in socio-economic processes. Educating a girl has far-reaching impacts. It is aptly said that when a woman is educated, an entire generation benefits from it.

The present scenario in which the girl child is mercilessly killed even before birth, does not speak too well about the fate of this species. The scenario is so varied that, it is really difficult to understand what we are really doing or trying to do in this regard.


On the one hand we see girls entering in the fields of all kinds of professions holding senior positions in offices, becoming engineers, doctors, managers etc. We are obviously impressed and are likely to believe that, the position of the girl is now after all not too bad.


However, the complexity of the problem becomes malicious when we see that, together with girls entering professions there is a simultaneous and continuous rise in the graph of crimes against women. Why and how do these two sides of the same problem co-relate, is a mind-boggling situation.


This situation is true of the urban area where education and freedom is given to girls – to a great extent, but even this growth of this class does not really bear any testimony to the equality of girls with boys.


The rural areas consisting of the major chunk of the Indian population see no – yes absolutely no change in the general attitude towards girls. In the villages, girls are not sent to schools and, if at all they are, they drop out after an year or two of schooling.


It is very clear that, the men who have held the fort single handedly for centuries, would obviously not like to give up their importance, or even share it with women. It is they who resent this rise of the heads of women and so, before women rise to unchallengeable heights the ogre of man wants to crush them.


This he does by using his God gifted physical strength and it is this reason that, crimes against women are now on the rise. The woman who was earlier battered because she was considered a lesser being is now being battered, because she is potential challenge to man’s unquestioned supremacy through past several centuries.


Thus, the position remains unchanged even after education and financial independence.


To my mind, there is no single package that could improve matters for the girl child/woman except that men change their attitude towards women. Unless men start regarding women as their equal partners, in the growth of humanity this differentiation between men and women shall continue unabated.


No single item of achievement like education, profession, legal rights or even the mixture of all these will work out a solution – the only feasible solution is the change of mind, the change of attitude of the men towards women. Till this is done, no amount of teaching, preaching or bargaining will help the girl child.


At this juncture when we talk of attitude, I must add that even women have to change their attitude towards the girl child/ women. At least partly women are themselves responsible for their position.


As women it is they who pamper their sons and husbands till they begin to believe that they are really superior beings. Let us all, men and women change our attitudes in this regard and surely it will reap pleasant results.Concluding by book with a poem written by me about a girl child:


Girls are treasure to family,

Girls give strength to family;

But why?

Why people not accepting?

That girls are wonderful and great ful.

They come as a daughter,

As a sister;

As a wife;

Oh come on! She is not a toy,

Save her,

Respect her,

Love her,

She is a human being,

She is treasure to family,

She gives strength to family.


SAVE GIRL CHILD 🚸



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